Oddly enough, Dr Rubin devotes 90 percent of his masterpiece to identifying what Hyde does to us, and only a few pages to how to actually fight him.
There is a reason for this. It's because 90% of the battle is figuring out when it's our inner critic doing the talking. He is so integrated into our personality, like a serpent twined around a stick, that we think the thoughts he feeds us are our own thoughts.
For example, how many guys reading this believe only a coward would not willingly die for his country? That the correct manly attitude is my country, right or wrong? How many girls reading this think they aren't pretty enough?
Bottom line, whenever there is a message saying "Something's wrong with you," it's Hyde.
And the way to battle him [finally!] is very simple. Resist. In any way possible.
One method Bertrand Russell used to use is to argue it out, aloud. "I'm a coward? I'm not pretty enough? Says who? What standards are you applying here? And who made you judge and jury? I know it's you Hyde, trying to make me feel bad. Well, it's not going to work this time, so there."
This might not be everyones cup of tea. Do what you feel works for you. The goal, however, is the same for everyone. Figure out when it's Hyde talking, then don't let him get away with it.
More to come.
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